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rainbowgirl28
03-07-2008, 09:37 AM
http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001697.cfm

The truth, I've since found out, is very different. A study by Pew Research found that only 10 percent of stay-at-home moms think that a full-time employed mom is the best situation for children — hardly a surprise. What was a surprise to me is what working mothers think — only 11 percent of them believe that a full-time working mom is the best situation for children. The two groups, portrayed to be at war with each other, really have very similar ideas as to what is best for children. It seems that God has given women — all women — something that draws them to their children.

Those numbers got me to wondering two things. First, why hadn't I ever heard this before? For years, I had been encouraged by educators, the media and the "women's movement" to choose a career and pursue it vigorously. Why hadn't they told me that, when children arrive, almost 90 percent of working moms find that full-time careers are no longer the ideal situation?

And second, why the disconnect? If both groups of women generally agree about what is best, why aren't we doing the same thing? The answer, for most of the moms I talk with, is money.

nick
03-07-2008, 09:38 AM
not really.

ginacolada
03-08-2008, 03:05 PM
I'd like to, definitely. But that's probably not going to be the best choice, financially, since I am going to be living in Monterey. So I'll work. In Fresno I could have pulled it off.... but I really don't want to stay here. :)

rainbowgirl28
03-08-2008, 11:07 PM
I'd like to, definitely. But that's probably not going to be the best choice, financially, since I am going to be living in Monterey. So I'll work. In Fresno I could have pulled it off.... but I really don't want to stay here. :)

So once you take out taxes and daycare costs, do you think it will make a significant impact on your finances to work full-time? Or do you have a more creative plan?

I can still do most of the stuff I do now when I have kids, I just can't do nearly as much of it as I am now, so I will have to pick and choose the things that make sense.

sweethert68
03-09-2008, 09:41 PM
I would love to be a stay at home mom... I hope that by the time we are ready to have kids we can manage surviving on one income... But I guess that just depends on where we are employed when that day comes...


Do you think that staying at home with your children gives them any kind of advantage over children whose parents work full time?? If so how....

chevelle
03-09-2008, 09:42 PM
I'd rather work full time and have a stay at home husband.

sweethert68
03-09-2008, 09:45 PM
I'd rather work full time and have a stay at home husband.


NOT ME!!!! You haven't spent enough time with Lance yet... That would be like leaving them home alone!!

rainbowgirl28
03-09-2008, 10:02 PM
I would love to be a stay at home mom... I hope that by the time we are ready to have kids we can manage surviving on one income... But I guess that just depends on where we are employed when that day comes...


Do you think that staying at home with your children gives them any kind of advantage over children whose parents work full time?? If so how....

It can, it just depends on the situations. My parents are both doctors and generally my mom worked full time. We had a nanny when I lived in Florida (age 3-8), she took a year off when we moved to Seattle, and then we took the school bus to after school daycare at a community center. We did summer daycamp and overnight camps in the summer.

I think we turned out just fine. But it's not what I want to do for my kids.

I just don't think I could delegate something as important as raising my own kids.

Here are some tips for those considering being a stay at home mom (or even those not considering this). Even if you're not religious, the articles are filled with tons of practical advice.
http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001506.cfm
http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001084.cfm

kritn
03-09-2008, 11:43 PM
my children will be furry or scaly and four-legged. :)

TeKoverride
03-10-2008, 10:56 AM
my children will be furry or scaly and four-legged. :)

Ah they take after their mother ;) hahaha jk

WonDer waLL
03-10-2008, 08:19 PM
I agree...I'd love to do it, but there is NO way to live a decent life in California on one salary...no way